Self-Development an egocentric approach !

010Personal development must be a egocentric act and only is focused on your own wellbeing and will leave out all others in the beginning. To most it will come as a shock to know that all religion leaders have been (and some still are) egocentric personalities. To be devoted to a God or “superior being” you need to direct all attention first inward to develop oneself .

Self-development  is a need for every person alive. If you do not develop yourself you would be a baby forever and a career never surpassing the level of a primary school pupil.

One of the major problems in current society is the mixed signals everybody gets. We have to develop ourselves in a network of social contacts and connected to the environment.  At school we are thought to work together and while doing so we also learn to irritate the partners in the group as much as possible. Most people are not able to work together for assignments and hate to do this job. The reason is very simple ; their personal development is yet on the way, they sincerely do not know to cope with themselves so how can teachers , lecturers, bosses, managers and governments expect people are able to act in a group ?

The reality of life is that most do not have a structure in personal development and the main reason is the environment or group they are living in. People block other people to develop themselves. That is why you need to become a pure egocentric person before you are able to share and care. You have to realize your own needs and wishes.

To develop yourself you need to ask yourself some questions first ;

1 – Why do I want to develop myself, do I have reasons and targets ? Am I satisfied with my current life or not ?

2 – In what direction do I want to develop myself ? You need to search yourself first for instance by making a list of your strong and weak points, in management it is called a SWOT analysis = Strength , Weakness, Opportunities and Threats.

3 – How do I develop myself ? Some people will choose for education others for motivation.

Again I would like to stress that the whole process must be done without the consideration of any other person around you neither husband, wife or children, it must be a purely egocentric decision. This is the only way to discover the roots of your being.

It is easy to run into a religion or follow a leader to find your way but in your head there is always the question ; is this the right way that I really want to follow ? You need to answer that question before it is too late.

In recent events I saw trainers pulling people toward them with the message to become millionaire or rich and wealthy. People want to live in a dream that is called money. But let us all be fair and we know that over 90% of all living human beings will never be rich in money. But you can be rich in life and mind. Rich is not a dirty word but a word with so many interpretations.

To be rich you need to be aware of what you consider valuable. The things that are most valuable in your life will make you happy and rich. To some it is the family and others a hobby or profession. Many consider processions as part of being rich.

My question to you is ; what do you consider rich ?